Assertiveness From the Inside Out

Self care and assertiveness skills to become as kind to yourself as you are to everyone else

If you’re “too nice for your own good”, you could be doing yourself and the world a disservice.  This programme is to help you

• Feel freer to be true to yourself and express yourself honestly
• Become more confident and skilled saying ‘no’, negotiating and acting in your best interests
• Undo blocks around assertiveness and ‘being nice’ that have stopped you in the past
• Start treating yourself with respect and feel like you’re worth standing up for

You’ve probably tried to get better at standing up for yourself before, but it just didn’t feel right.

Maybe you worry that looking after yourself is “selfish”, you instinctively put other people’s needs before your own, you feel like you have to keep making up for who you are, or you tend to “keep the peace” only to suffer or find things go wrong later.

Instead of just giving you techniques, this course also helps you change how you think and feel so you can relax and allow standing up for your interests begin to feel right.

Dates:  6 weeks from 11th October to 22th November.  Weekly videos and exercises to do when you want plus live group coaching calls for personal help Wednesdays 7-8pm

Price:  £95 Early bird price to October 1st only £65

A Self Care and Assertiveness

Fitness Programme

We’ve all read books or been on courses, felt good at the time, but then slipped back into old habits afterwards.   This course is different.  It’s like a fitness programme to help you steadily stretch how you think, build your self care and assertiveness muscles, and put them into practice in your life

STRETCHING to help you loosen disempowering beliefs about conflict, yourself, assertiveness or being ‘good’ that might have been holding you back

CORE STRENGTH exercises to build your confidence, integrity and pride

CARDIO — mini challenges to start applying what you’re learning in your life

Live online TEAM TALKS and coaching with me and other participants to work through problems and keep you on track

About Me

I qualified as a brief solution focused cognitive behavioural hypnotherapist in 1999.  Since then I’ve done further study in motivational interviewing, provocative therapy, NLP, coaching and using the body for change.  My work stretches from one-to-one therapy and coaching to communication and leadership training.  Clients include the NHS, the Royal Air Force, GP training programmes and hundreds of individual clients.

I help you

• Get clear so you know what to do next and why
• Calm emotional triggers so you can start responding instead of reacting
• Put new habits into practice so they become part of your life

“Andy is a smart and very insightful coach. He is caring when he needs to be and tough when he needs to be. Working with him has me more effective and resilient.”

Jules, London

This course follows the path I’ve travelled myself.  A journey from believing the my only role in life was to serve others to learning to also love, accept and support myself.  The course is the one that I wish had been available for me all those years ago.

Liz

Is It Right for You?

This isn’t just a bunch of tips.  You can look them up on the web.

Assertiveness from the Inside Out starts with freeing you from the ways of thinking and feeling that have kept you stuck up to now then building your confidence and skill on that solid foundation.

It will be particularly helpful if you recognise some of these

• You’re great at taking care of others but forget to look after yourself
• You’ve tried to become more assertive but it doesn’t feel right so you slip back
• You don’t speak up about things that bother you then end up feeling stuck and resentful
• You say ‘yes’ to things you don’t want to do avoid disapproval, rejection or conflict
• You secretly hope that if you’re kind enough to other people for long enough, they will get the message and do the same for you
• Looking after yourself feels selfish and wrong so you don’t do it

If that’s you, first off don’t beat yourself up about it.  Your kindness towards others is a wonderful gift.  It’s just got out of balance.  We’ll help strengthen your other ‘muscles’ so you can be start being as kind to yourself as you are to others.

Ilse, Wellington, New Zealand

Benefits

Everyone’s life is different and so it’s impossible to guarantee specific results but the course is designed to help you

• Stop instinctively putting everyone else first and build fairer, more nourishing relationships
• Build the confidence to say ‘no’, set boundaries and negotiate
• Reduce fear of disapproval or rejection so you can be yourself
• Become as good a friend to yourself as you are to everyone else

If you want to become more familiar with my work, watch some of my videos or join my email list below.

The course is

• Affordable – much cheaper than one-to-one coaching
• Accessible – you don’t need to travel and can do most things when it suits you
• Personal – the weekly Team Talk call and private discussion group mean you have a place to bring up your challenges and get personalised help
• About doing not just learning – you’ll get weekly exercises so you bring your changes into your life

I don’t know of any other course offering the same combination of inner change and practical support.

“Andrew will help make those meaningful changes that can make such a difference to your life.”

Debbie Janson

If you’d like to join us to

• Start thinking more fairly
• Build your self esteem and confidence
• And feel better about acting in your own interests and expressing how you feel

then, click on the Paypal link here.

It is just £95.  Not much more than just one coaching or therapy session for six weeks of supported change.

Early bird price until October 1st – £65.

Clicking this will open a Paypal page where you can pay securely using either your Paypal account or a credit/debit card.   I’ll write to welcome you personally shortly afterwards.

If you change your mind, you can get a refund any time until the beginning of the course.

If it’s not right for you but you’d like to hear about my other work, enter your email address here.

If you’d like to ask a question, email me at hello@andrewcain.co.uk and we can work out if it would be right for you or not.  I only want happy customers so if it’s not right for you, I’ll help you decide.